2017 – well, yeah

Blimey, it’s blowing a hooley out there. The weather is feeling suitably wintry and I am feeling reflective. I have said it before, and I will say it again, as a blogger you have got to mark your milestones. It’s that dead period between Xmas and New Year, I saw a funny meme (oh God I have spent too much time with an 11-year old) about how you feel festive in the run-up to Xmas and then just fat for most of January but in this in-between time you eat cheese and wonder what day of the week it is. So, tis indeed a time to reflect upon the greater cycles that govern us.

I was out this morning tackling a pile of wood that we chopped down last year. It’s now the time to collect it from the field and stack it inside to dry fully to keep us warm next Christmas. It’s why we make chutney, you lay things down to pick up further down the line and enjoy the fruits of your past labours. Oooh, I think I am going to go full Lion King and present a child to the future generations and chant.

Failing that, let’s look back at 2017. I was putting together a “Faces of 2017 Quiz” for New Year’s Eve, so went through the People We Lost pages in the paper and 2017 was a lot kinder on the great and the good than 2016… obviously not for the people who actually died in 2017. But where 2017 we lost David Bowie and Victoria Wood, for 2017 it was Bruce Forsyth and Johnny Hallyday. So, that’s errr, great.

Well, I should probably steer clear of politics, but I won’t… We had a General Election and it was well, basically, the biggest political miscalculation we have seen since someone decided to call a referendum to resolve the “European Issue”, way back in the mists of time when dinosaurs roamed the sunlit uplands and David and George were masters of all they surveyed, circa: the year before last. How we managed to go from what looked like a dead cert of Teresa May consolidating her hold on power to do with it what she willed, to Jeremy Corbyn looking like the sensible option, is certainly beyond me. I think it’s great but I certainly didn’t see it coming. For what it’s worth, I didn’t vote for him and I wouldn’t until he had a clear plan for Europe. But what a complete, total, fascinating mess.

If this wasn’t the actual reality that I, my family and so many people I know and love were living in, the current political landscape is a thing of scandalous beauty for the beholder. Who cares that Kevin Spacey is too morally repugnant to continue in his role as President Underwood in House of Cards, the U.S. remake of the classic BBC series? Neither of those series have got anything on the reality unfolding before us. On the “oh, come on you are really taking this too far” test, real Trump scores far more highly than fictional Underwood. “Oh, come on, just a whiff of collusion between a U.S. President and Russia would bring the whole house of cards tumbling down! …surely…? wouldn’t it?”

And what’s more! While some 25 years separated the airing of the U.K. and U.S. versions of the series, we have the two running concurrently! Exclamation marks!!!!

Meanwhile on the home front… Otto has hit secondary school and… and I really shouldn’t write about him anymore online. So no more photos of him in the bath, marked Public on Facebook and certainly no rants about “What the bloody hell happened there? Why did no one tell me that just because you had got them to sleep through the night and not poo in their pants you hadn’t actually Achieved Parenthood? That there was a whole lot more poo to come and very much outside of the pants (I feel I am stretching this metaphor)”, however cathartic such a rant might be.

So, onto Ava-Jane, after all this blog is supposed to be all about her… well, she is still the most fabulous creature alive. She is still having the occasional fit but I think we are getting the meds balanced and they seem to be less frequent. They do leave her a bit shell-shocked. Fo could see she had had one today even though she saw her a long time after it had happened. But other than that she is really progressing with her language. She managed to tell Helen that she had had a bath yesterday and didn’t need one today – needs must! Really importantly, I think she can focus on things for longer stretches of time.

I am not someone who generally or genuinely reflects much about the future. It has always seemed to have crept up on me, which I enjoy. I like history and the cycles of nature, viz chutney above. But the future, who knows? I think this is especially true for AJ, no one lives for the moment like she does. If she is having a drink of milk and you put a fluffy toy on her table to cuddle with while she drinks her milk, she’ll chuck the milk on the floor and cuddle the fluffy toy. Then when she has had enough of cuddling the fluffy toy, she’ll chuck that on the floor and say, “milk, please,… floor” while transfixing you with her piercing blue eyes. I don’t think she really feels complicit in the milk being on the floor, so exhorting her not to chuck it on the floor again doesn’t get you very far.

So we should all be more like Ava-Jane: live for the moment, giggle as much as you can and if you have made a bad decision and chucked something on the floor that you want back again, you only have to ask and look cute (FYI in this laboured metaphor, which is even more stretched than the one above, the milk represents the EU, so remember: Milk = EU.) Essentially all we need to do is realise that we didn’t want to leave the EU after all because it wasn’t that bad and all this leaving was a bit of a pain in the arse, flutter our eyes at some Eurocrat and ask to come back in again, bitte schön and Roberto is your mother’s son. So, all very unlike AJ dropping her milk or likely to happen. I think our milk is staying on that floor and even if we do a really sad face, no one is going to pick it up for us, that’s where it’s staying, down there with the fluffy toy and our table will be empty and we will be hungry and thirsty and bored.

And on that happy note, I bid you all a great 2018 from us all.



AJ with Auntie Lau-Lau


Zac’s Engagement Party

Efforts to get all nephews and nieces into the same picture at the same time proved fruitless – herding cats. So I have added Molly leaning seductively on Josh’s should and looking beautiful almost impercetibly into this one. 

No Brexit… promise! No, really, no Brexit.

For those of you fed up of my Brexit rants or for those who like the rants but feel blue about Brexit, watch this little video that Ava-Jane and I made. Click HERE

So that’s a bit of AJ for posterity. As you can see, she is still hilarious. Her epileptic-type seizures are getting worse and changing, which feels worrying. We haven’t got beyond trying to up and down doses of various drugs to see what happens. But she does seems very tired and they leave her feeling sad.

And here is a great pic of Ava-Jane, Otto, cousin Connie and friend Minty on a very windy beach in Wales!



I even made a gif, with other niece Eloise flipping on an even windier beach Wales, click HERE for that one.

You see, no Brexit! I bet you didn’t believe me.


Unpatriotic Bremoaner, moi? How very dare you!

I will include the statutory cute picture of Ava-Jane to lure in the unsuspecting who might think this post will be about my darling daughter, as the blog purports to be, rather than just me sounding off again. This one is at Caernaforn Castle with AJ’s absolute bestest buddy Eloise. 

So my father-in-law seems to think that I knock off these Brexit diatribes late at night having maybe had a glass or two of wine… My father-in-law is a very perceptive man!

But in actual truth, I have had this one brewing for a while now. Ever since… well, ever since the last one probably.

So this time what has got my goat is the accusation that anyone who is not fully signed up to backing Brexit is somehow being unpatriotic and “doing Britain down”. This is the kind of thing you might hear from Jacob Rees-Mogg, our own dear B Johnson, I refer you back to his puff piece from the Telegraph or even the kind of thing that Mrs May alludes to with her “citizens of nowhere” concept.

There has always been a tendency for patriotism to be claimed as the sole possession of the right. They hark back to the glories of the British Empire, Waterloo, Agincourt etcetera ad nauseam back to Boudicca though they might prefer to call her Boadicea as all this renaming has the whiff of political correctness gone mad. I mean to say that if the Calcutta was good enough for the Black Hole, what is this Kolkata stuff and nonsense. But there are plenty of other reasons to be proud of Britain and being British: The Levellers, The Chartists, William Wilberforce, Wat Tyler.

And while all of the above could be debated to death, what we have in the present day is a very real and present danger to the very fabric of our society. The Brexit charge is led by what I believe is a fundamentalist wing of the Conservative Party. Their unswerving faith in their cause lets them believe that this threat of a no deal Brexit is somehow the interpretation of the will of the British people.

Threatening to leave without a deal, which some are touting as the only way to negotiate is not the sane business negotiation they envisage. Yes, if you are trying to sell a car and someone makes you an offer that it too low it is entirely reasonable to walk away. There is no deal but you get to keep the car – you are back where you started.
What we are facing is the kind of no deal that we have seen in so many films. This is where a swivelled-eyed loon might have a grenade and threatens, for example, “if you take another step, I will blow us all up!”
We might take some of them of us but we will certainly be doing ourselves the greatest damage.
I have been writing this post in instalments and I am now stone-cold sober and it’s not even that late but today is the day that we have been bombarded with all sorts of fantastically ironic juxtapositions of news. For example:
Last night the PM gave a speech telling the Russians “we know what you are doing” as evidence mounts of Russian state interference in the Brexit referendum. See here. That’s great, very perceptive and brave But then the very next night she tries to fix a hard and fast time and date to leave the EU. Presumably because the referendum was the “will of the people”. But I’d say it’d be worth checking that we are not actually enacting the will of the people of St Petersburg before we charge ahead, no?
We also had the unlovely long-term Brexiteer, Sir Bill Cash, co-opting a cock-eyed view of history to serve his own ends:
“We have just had Remembrance Day. I just want people to reflect on the fact that those millions of people who died in those two World Wars died for a reason – it was to do with sustaining the freedom of democracy in this House.”
So, Sir Bill, that would be WWI when we fought alongside the famously democratic Tsarist Russia and at a time when British women didn’t even have the vote? Or WWII when we fought alongside the famously democratic Communist Russia? And when “this House” is about to push through legislation using a mechanism named after the famously democratic Henry VIII, right?
It’s our past not just yours and other people might believe that the most respectful way to honour the dead of those wars and so many before them, would be hold together a unique union of Europeans that has kept the peace in a continent that has seen centuries of bloodshed.
Something else that has been hitting the headlines since I picked up my pen is the wholesome news related to the Paradise Papers revelations. Now I know and you know that none of this was actually news. We all knew that Lewis Hamilton was a tax dodger, he hardly moved to Monaco for the miles of open highway upon which he could enjoy a good drive. Bono’s a hypocrite, you say?
And, yes, as we are obliged to say, “none of it is actually illegal”, well no, it isn’t, but it is all just a bit grotty. And then you have the owners and editors of the Brexit-loving wing of the British press: the Paul Dacres, Viscounts Rothermere, the weird twins who own the Telegraph and the pornographer who owns the Express all involved. These are the ones that will happily trot our headlines accusing judges who are doing their jobs for being “enemies of the people” or calling Tory MPs trying to uphold parliamentary sovereignty “mutineers”. These hugely wealthy men then have the cheek to squirm out of paying their dues. I, for one, certainly do not feel I need to take a lecture on patriotism from them.
To my mind it’s the same kind of patriotism voiced by people who say “Britain is the greatest country in the world” but then threaten to up and leave if Corbyn elected. So what made Britain great wasn’t the cricket, the eye-watering beauty of a Cotswold village bathed in autumnal colours, our proud democratic history, or our great cultural heritage – it was the tax rate. How shoddy! That seems a rather flimsy greatness to me.
I had better leave it there. I am not sure any of it made an awful lot of sense and I was a bit less sweary than usual but I felt I had to get these things off my chest!
It seems I credited Mrs May too much. Apparently though she knows that Russia is interfering in elections just not Brexit, even though there is plenty of evidence of precisely that. If Russia is doing what she said it is, it is in order to sow discord in “Western” states and to distract us from working against what Putin sees as Russia’s interests and what better way to do that than to support Brexit and Trump. Putin wants to make Russia great again and one way he sees of doing this is to set everyone else squabbling and you have to give it to him – it’s working! But our PM has decided to side with her sagacious (f)FS, who has no self interests here and somehow decide that Russia hasn’t interfered in a vote that has not only set one important European nation against all the rest but has turned it in on itself and divided a once united kingdom.
From today’s Guardian:
The prime minister yesterday supported the position taken by the foreign secretary, Boris Johnson, that there was no evidence yet that Russia had interfered in Brexit. May said: “I spoke on Monday about the issue of Russian interference in elections. We have seen that taking place in a number of countries in Europe … the examples I gave of Russian intervention were not in the UK.”
Check out this pic of AJ and Nonny with Fo and Otto on their gee-gees in the background.

Sodding Brexit!


I am adding this cute picture of Ava-Jane not because it is particularly relevant to this blog post – it isn’t – but she does kind of look like she is saying “Why the hell are you fretting over Brexit? Look at those clouds, it is about to chuck it down and this clown is taking a photo of me!”

The title of this post might betray the fact that it isn’t going to be one about “Hey check how cute my daughter is!” nor “Living with Down Syndrome/Hear Defects/Brain Damage… Yeah… And?” Nope, this is is going to be one from a sporadic series from me of the “What the Fuc* were you thinking?” genre and in which the “sodding” of the title is but a vague sop to the more genteel amongst my readership and everyone really knows I would rather be using a far ruder word.

So has anyone actually read Boris Johnson’s 4,200 word piece in the Telegraph this Saturday? Well, I have! The newspaper delivery gods, (and I do not doubt that such immortals exist) contrived to deliver only the main part of the Telegraph to me this Saturday. I only get the Telegraph on a Saturday because I really like the crossword. So I do the crossword and burn the rest – it burns better than the Guardian/Observer because those weird twins who own the paper and live on a remote Channel Island scrimp on ink… presumably to save money to reinvest in building a throwback medieval micro-state. But I digress…

So anyway, I received a copy of the Saturday Telegraph shorn of the one section that I actually wanted but laden with the wisdom of my childhood chum, dear Boris. Dear, dear Boris. So, yeah, I can’t claim to be some sort of warrior whose hatred of Boris emanates from the envy of class warfare. We are old friends of the Johnsons  – we knew them from when we all lived in Brussels… Yes Brussels.  We went to the same prep school, I am a bit posh too. But… But… I can recognise an enormous self-serving knob end when I see one. And that is what dear Boris is.

So if anyone has been paying attention to the news recently, picking your way through truly important stories and tragedies of hurricanes and earthquakes, you will have seen that out Foreign Secretary, the holder of one of the three great offices of state has opined on Brexit.

However, I imagine that only the saddest amongst us will actually have read the full 4,200 words of the article. I’d like to think that I have taken one for the team by being one of those who has not only read the article but also annotated it. Tragic, I know!

So the media have widely reported and debated the fact Boris has revived the most popular Brexit lie about there being a weekly bonanza of £350 million coming our way post Brexit, which would be spent on the NHS. The details of this have picked apart by luminaries but it boils down to: it’s not £350 million and whatever it is will probably be spent on keeping our heads above water in a post-Brexit wasteland not on dialysis machines. (Ooooh I can spell “dialysis” without the aid of spellcheck!)

So if that was the main headline crap from his article what other nuggets of crap, dags if you will, have I been able to glean from my close reading of the Boris oeuvre (OK, I fess up, I needed spellcheck for “oeuvre”).

Johnson’s (and here I stand with the New Statesman podcast in trying to stop calling him Boris – he is not everyone’s chum!) main thrust is a quite frighteningly nationalistic argument where Britain is somehow greater than every other country in the world. I have heard this “greatest country” thing from people from many countries. This simple fact shows what a ludicrous and dangerous thing it is to say. No two countries can be the “greatest country” and in any case, what metric are you using to measure the “greatest country”. If it is “greatest at being British”, then yes Britain is the “greatest country”. There are plenty of reasons for being proud of being British but none of them derive from thinking oneself superior to anyone else.

But anyway… Let’s get some quotes in to see how Johnson’s arguments make no sense whatsoever even on their own terms. For example, and I will type out exactly what he wrote as he wrote it (He has been accusing journalists of just reading the headlines):

…this country still has chronic problems and at leat some of them have been exacerbated by the rigidities of EU membership – and certainly by the way we have chosen legally to apply those obligations.

Our infrastructure is too expensive – and takes far longer than France or other countries.

OK, so this guy is meant to be the great wordsmith of this government, the risen Churchill. Johnson Major: what do you mean our “infrastructure takes longer” What… to build? …to travel along the Tory privatised train lines? But apart from the fact that your English makes no sense, how come these rigidities hamper us so much but not the French… long-term EU members? WHAT!!!??? Explain yourself, properly.

And then, not three where-has-it-all-gone-wrong paragraphs later, we have:

The result of all these failings (none actually EU related, ed.) – over decades – is that we have low productivity: lower than France or Germany.

FML Johnson! FML, honestly? How much has been spent on your education over the decades? You fucking quote Cicero… Could you really not think of two countries other than France and Germany to make the point about how the EU stifles productivity? I mean those two, literally are the EU. Couldn’t you even think of countries that nobody really knows about, like Estonia, or maybe one that has been genuinely screwed by the EU but is quite classically European, like Greece. Or how about Singapore and Chile – both productive, both a long way from the EU?

And on it goes. He blames EU citizens for the high prices of housing in London as if this might have nothing to do with assorted Russians, Saudis and whatevs. He thinks that we could seize the opportunity of Brexit by “reforming our tax system” (= cutting taxes for the super rich and corporations) without mentioning that our neighbours on the Emerald Isle have been doing this for a while now and their economy tanked even further than ours in 2008. And while I am sure that each individual Luxembourgeois is doing very well thank you. This is not because they are outside the EU – they aren’t! – it’s because there are about seven of them and that’s if everyone is home for the weekend. So if we could reduce our population by approximately 64,999,993 people, we too could do very well by turning ourselves into a tax haven in hock to the great god Amazon.

But the worst of it is the Poundland nationalistic tripe that Johnson comes out with, the “to put Britain in the lead”, “Look at our universities – the best in the world”, “We have more international visitors than any other capital, including Paris and New York” (Boris, you numpty, everyone knows that NYC isn’t like actually the capital of the US. OK, so what’s the capital of Australia? Sydney or Melbourne?)

I think that we all know that Johnson does all of the above and espouses all of these opinions purely for the advancement of Boris Johnson. Recently we have been in thrall to his own personal blonde ambition but for decades now the tories angst over Europe has buffeted us from one side to another. One could argue that every leader since Alec Douglas-Home has been jettisoned for a European-related issue, that’s if one gave a damn.

But it is all so non-sensical, who actually cares? Bhutan registers off the scale on various happiness registers and Scandinavian countries are the go-to exemplars for all sorts of how-to-run-a-country ideas and they haven’t been world beaters at anything since they buried Harald Hadradr at Stamford Bridge.

And so if Johnson’s schtick is that Britain should be somehow great, important and relevant, can anyone tell me how we are showing our “greatness” nit-picking over irrelevant trivialities? Couldn’t we be exerting influence on our special relation to draw them back from nuclear armageddon or how about “putting the ‘Great’ into ‘Great Britain'” by leading the planet out of its spiral into climate catastrophe?

I know that I am peculiarly European and this all matters more to me than it does to many of my fellow Brits. I know that the EU is far from perfect but the key questions I asked to anyone who would listen pre-referendum were:

  • Is it really that crap? Is the EU really so crap that we need to spend every ounce of our political energy for the next five years or more disentangling ourselves?
  • Is the grain of liberty we will gain of political freedom worth the beam of every kind of freedom we abrogate every time we enter our details in an online form.
  • Have we really “regained control” by leaving the EU when there are various multinationals that know more about us than our own spouses and pay only what they choose to pay into our national coffers?

What really worries you on a big scale? Climate change – these storms we are seeing are not caused by climate change but they are exacerbated by the way we have treated the environment. International terrorism? Trump? I mean Trump… I know he is not our President but he could very easily kick off a nuclear war.

Is any of the above solved by Brexit?

If you have made it this far please listen to our podcast. Otto and I have just done a guest episode on the History of England, I am very proud of that!! We also have our own website.

Having fun raising funds


So last weekend we were manning a stall at our local Farmer’s Market in order to raise funds for the North Bucks Downs Syndrome Group. This is a very fine group indeed. Not to be confused with the South Bucks Downs Syndrome Group who are all together more la-di-da and from places like High Wycombe and Beaconsfield while we are from the other side of the tracks, the mean streets. We do, however, bake.

But seriously this group has been such an important part of our lives since AJ was born. Alison and Sarah in the pic above welcomed us in and and have seen us through all sorts of hard times. I have always felt that Down’s Syndrome is really not a problem. AJ has had so much else thrown at her that one more little chromosome is very much the least of her problems. I am sure that our NBDSG can take a lot of credit for me feeling this way. They are just a lovely bunch of people to hang out with who have great kids. See below for AJ boogying with Niamh and getting amorous with Christopher – she’ll do anything for a man with a Spotty Bag!

One of my favourite NBDSG anecdotes is from Otto after one of our first away days with the group. Otto played with Thomas who is a couple of years older than him. Otto was absolutely delighted that a big boy had played with him and said “Thomas is six and he played with me and I haven’t even got Down’s Syndrome” (meaning: he played with me even though I am not part of the gang).

Thanks all, we don’t do nearly enough to support the group but we really enjoyed Saturday.

Summertime and reunions

So as a blogger you’ve got to have your regular blog posts – your birthday posts, your year’s end posts and so on. A holiday post has also become a staple. This year’s holiday post is more of more of the same than most given that we went to the selfsame place in France as we did last year. But we figured that it all worked so well last year that we would do it all again this year. It consists of a somewhat stressful stage of packing a load of crap into our car plus ourselves, crossing the channel by one of various means, driving through France taking the odd wrong turn, Fo and I shouting at each other until Fo realised I was right all along (I write the blog – she can gainsay this point through her own social media channels should she feel the need) while the children sail through the campagne blissfully ignorant of either the rising tension between their parents or of the cultural treasures of France that they are missing with heads stuck in their iPads. Then we arrive to copious wine and fromage and all is good in the world. Love is in the air entre Monsieur et Madame Baxter, there’s a swimming pool – what more could you ask for.
The only slight difference this year is that on the way home for our history detour we go to Orleans rather than Saint-Malo. For those of you following the history podcast I am doing with Otto you will be getting our live/not live episode about Joan of Arc and the siege of Orleans… soonish.
Sadly the weather was not so great, so we couldn’t spend quite as much time in the pool as Ava-Jane would have liked. The conversation goes like this:
Parent: shall we get out?
AJ: No!
Parent: but you are blue and shivering.
AJ: more wim pool!
She tends to win these exchanges and to be fair to her she has not, to date, contracted pneumonia.
Less time in the pool did mean we had a little more time for exploring, which I love. Fo came up with a classic – Chateau Blasé. This is the chateau that you drive straight past because it barely has any turrets and everyone except dad has long had their fill of chateaux.
Beyond that there is not much to tell other than of waistlines driven ever outwards thanks to the French knack of putting butter and/or creme fraiche in every course from your moules to your crepes and in each of breakfast, lunch and dinner. Merci mes amis. With Brexit looming, we thought it wise to pack every nook and cranny of the car with wine, even though we decided, in the end, not to jettison a kid in order to fit more in. How long will we be able to continue doing this? Come March 2019, will it be back to an allowance of two bottles of wine as it is with the rest of the world? How can a decision that stops you ramming your car with plonk be anything other than a stupid f*cking idea? “Taking back control”, my ar*e! (I do hope the more sensitive among my readership appreciate my strategic use of the asterisk to spare your blushes. I hope that my profanities are entirely unrecognisable to your innocent eyes.)
Mini-rant over. But this summer, for me, has also been about reunions after many, many years with people who have been a massive part of my life.
First we had the visit of RoRo – I am not yet fifty so I can still call her RoRo and not sound like some kidult suffering from severe arrested development, my brother Toby, on the other hand, who is past fifty would just sound weird!! RoRo looked after us when I was three, so not recently! She came with us to Brussels and was a very important part of the family. My mum has stayed in touch with her and was in touch with her parents too but this was the first time I had seen her for years. It was great to be able to introduce RoRo to my own children. Oh, BTW, she is actually called Rosemary, and rereading this paragraph I realise I probably do sound pretty strange.
Next reunion was with Jakob, see below with gorgeous daughter Malaika. When I was eighteen I went to Argentina to work for the Baron and Baroness von Plessen to teach their son English in Argentina. My official title was “Private Tutor” but essentially I was an au pair – my teaching was very unstructured, it mainly consisted of playing around with Jakob, who was only ten years younger than me, and riding around on horses. Luckily Jakob was a bright kid and he picked up English pretty smoothly – he already spoke Spanish and German.
The year I spent with the von Plessens was an absolutely formative part of my life. It was where I first learnt Spanish. I was picked up from the airport by two gauchos, I didn’t know a word of Spanish at the time, so they taught me words for the things we could see out of the car window: horse, cow, tree (caballo, vaca, arbol), by the time we got to the house five hours later, I had these words pretty well learnt given that there is nothing much else to see on the pampa other horses, cows and the odd tree. It was here also that I had my first teaching English as a foreign language job, which would become the career I have followed in one way or another ever since.
So when I was sent to Buenos Aires for work, I decided to add on a few days to see if I could track Jakob down. I make this sound more of an adventure than it really was – he is on Facebook. It was great to meet him after thirty years and to see that he has grown into the adult he always should have been. He came to spend a summer with me in the UK when he was eight. We arranged for him to meet some Brit kids of his own age and he told them he had shot a wild boar, they naturally thought he was making it up but it was quite true. Jakob has continued to live on the wilder side of life. He organises horse trekking expeditions in Patagonia and Kenya and has broken almost every bone in his body tumbling off horses.
The chap below, Claudio, has never been my au pair, nor I his! But he was Jakob’s tutor, and Claudio was a proper tutor, after I left. We met very briefly when he dropped Jakob off at mine the following year. But then a decade later, in what felt like a different thread of the space-time continuum, I was introduced to an Argentinian guy on the street in some fiestas in Madrid by our late and very lamented friend Donald. It took us a while to work out the connection but Claudio, being the sharper of us two, suddenly exclaimed “That Luke!!” And we became great buddies and did quite a few more fiestas round Madrid over the years.
Claudio was surprised to see me without a beard so it has been a good few years since we last saw each other. Luckily we pretty much picked up where we had left off the last time ours paths had crossed and did lots of chatting over cocktails, wine, massive steaks and dulce de leche pancakes.
I do hope that Otto and Ava-Jane will stay in touch with all the lovely people that we have had here with us looking after them, the Boros and the Anders, Noemie and Jess and Emily who is here now. I think that it is such a special relationship, that bond between a kid and a young adult who isn’t a parent but is.
So all in all a very fine summer has been had so far. Great to come back to some British drizzle and know that things are as they should be.

Me eight!

It was Ava-Jane’s eighth birthday on Sunday. Her birthday is always very emotional as it was the day after her second birthday that we found out that she had leukaemia. So to have her with us, alive and kicking is amazing. And she is so alive and kicking, even kicking the ball into the net at times.

This year, we had three of her school friends, Tommy, Pearl and Bilaal over for the party. Otto’s school and friends are very local, we know them all and their parents but it isn’t the same with AJ. She goes off in her taxi in the morning and comes back in the afternoon and we don’t know the people she spends her day with in the same way that we do with Otto. So it was fantastic to have her mates round. You could see that she was so happy and comfortable with them all. They are all non verbal to a certain extent but they all knew each other and communicated. Pearl has got a knowing grin that seems to say she has an inner joke going on that we are all missing. Ava-Jane loves to hold hands with both Bilaal and Tommy, I don’t want to be some horribly stereotypical Dad but I think I might need to keep an eye on this going forward, especially as they were both sporting some pretty rakish sun glasses.

So, happy birthday to my little girl. I can’t believe you are eight. You continue to amaze me and bring me joy – keep it going my squidge.

A post from Otto

Otto and I have been busy on our podcast (https://ourhistorypodcast.com/ should you want a listen) and I have not posted here for a while. Not really an awful lot to say on the Ava-Jane front. She is doing well, as happy as ever and even has homework these days!! And there’s just too much to say on the political front and I don’t know where to start (Jez We Can!! Sorry!)

So I thought I would just post this beautiful speech Otto gave at his school about Down’s Syndrome. And here are a couple of pictures of the two of them. She really could not ask for a finer brother.


Down’s Syndrome

Hello and welcome, as I hope you all know we all had to do a speech on whatever we wanted from football or cars to superheroes or Xboxes- anything in the world. I chose to do mine on Down’s syndrome and how it is misunderstood.

The dictionary’s definition is that Down’s syndrome is a congenital disorder arising from a chromosome defect (basically that’s where the 21st chromosome is in a group of three instead of a pair.) causing intellectual impairment and physical abnormalities including short stature and a broad facial profile. It arises from a defect from chromosome involving chromosome 21, usually an extra copy- trisomy 21 (basically what I said earlier).

That may of got a bit sciencey so to cut it down into non-dictionarified language: Down’s syndrome is a learning disability and not an illness or a disease as many people can think also it’s not overall a bad thing. In fact, I personally think that people with Down’s syndrome are typically happier than people without as I’ve never met a grumpy person with Down’s syndrome. Ah- yes, what Down’s syndrome is. It’s a learning disability as I said earlier but that doesn’t mean people with Down’s syndrome aren’t particularly clever but just that they may take longer to learn certain things- for example, my sister has Down’s syndrome and at three she was just on her way to learning to walk but unfortunately she had a stroke about a year later.

The way Down’s syndrome was discovered was by a Victorian doctor: John-Langdon-Down who coincidently had a grandson many years later who was diagnosed with the disability and that is how it got the name because it’s the syndrome of Jonathan Down (the grandson) therefore Down’s syndrome.

I went on a protest march about a year back, just outside the House of Commons, for a campaign called don’t screen us out- the aim to stop doctors advising parents to abort the pregnancy if tests say that the child would have Down’s syndrome because all doctors saw was what was on paper, the statistics: in other words the dictionary definition using the words defect or disorder and not what they grew up to be like. As I said earlier my sister has Down’s syndrome and she is probably the happiest person you will ever meet. She will make you laugh and smile like never before- but now the health minister (Jeremy Hunt) is trying to use testing to screen all unborn babies to see if they have Down Syndrome.   The test can identify lots of abnormalities, but it is just being used for Down Syndrome; it is an opt. Out able instead of opt In able test which means you used to be have to ask to take the test but now Jeremy Hunt wants to swap it around-, which will increase the abortion rate and overall decrease the population of People with Down’s syndrome in the UK. The abortion rate in Iceland for people who found out that their child would have Down’s syndrome is 100%, which really breaks my heart.   50 years ago, parents were told to leave their children in institutuions and forget about them.   By the 1980’s children with D S were included in mainstream education.   By the year 2000 there were many educated young adults who became actors, gained degrees, ran busineeses and happened to have Downs Syndrome. Imagine – in our generation the UK could eradicate anyone & everyone with Downs Syndrome.   So please agree with me when I say, don’t screen us out! We can’t let this happen in our lifetime.



Cross promotion ahoy!

Essentially this is going to be a post for anyone who feels they are just not getting enough of all things Baxter through this blog and feels that what they are missing in their lives is a podcast from yours truly + Otto.

Because, yes, such a thing is available and online. Otto and I have been making a history podcast and we have just launched our first episode. As this blog is, entre nous, as it were, I do have to say that the first episode is a bit ropey. We have recorded a few more which we will be releasing and I think they will get better as we go along.

But if you want to have a listen to our introduction and first episode about why we study history, here are some options:

You can go to our website by clicking this link.

Or if you prefer iTunes, click this link.

Some people use Stitcher apparently, if so, click this link.

Family news: We had Mum’s 86th birthday dinner. For very low admin birthday cake, we nicked some ice cream off the birthday girl and put some candles straight into the pot. It seemed to do the trick, see below.


Lambs 2017



Ah, yes, there she is! …with her baby.

I have been battering away at this blog for so long now it seems to have built traditions of its own. And one of these seems to be the “Lambs” post, see: April 2016, April 2014, April 2013… I think I was travelling in April 2015.

Our household is fairly manic at the best of times but it goes on complete overdrive in lambing season. We are constantly on the look out for ewes who might have lambed so we can all scurry to administer iodine and “Lamb Kickstart” – a vile looking concotion that is supposed to be full of goodies that get the lambs going. We get loads of help from anyone who pitches up, especially the most awesome Lucy and Maddie.

Ava-Jane and I had a day together – just the two of us in charge of various animals. Step 1 was to get rid of the dog and send her to her Dogfather, Andrew. Step 2 was to decide that the horses were probably going to survive on grass for 48 hrs. So that just left the ovines… Step 3 The poor ram, who has been confined to a stable because he can’t be trusted round the lambs, is going to stay confined to the stable.

So AJ and I set about filling buckets of water, see below, and generally keeping a weather eye on everything. We had reduced the focus of attentions to the ewes and the newborn lambs. There was a set of triplets with one particularly chubby one. So we thought that AJ had to spend a lot of the day cuddling the chubby one so that his siblings could have a shot at mum.

So really not much more to say, there isn’t much to be said politically, nothing to have a rave about. Actually as an emotional metaphor, the upcoming elections leave me feeling much like I felt after Atletico just got beaten 3-0 by Real Madrid with a Ronaldo hat-trick; the bad guys have won, the darkness has overwhelmed us, Frodo is not going to get the Ring into the fire, there won’t be enough “I believe in fairies” to revive Tinkerbell, the Dark Side will rise. All is lost!

Look at the lambs, aren’t they cute!